Just keep your head up high. Expect the unexpected.

You've made your choice and so did she. Now, you can either fix yours, or change it.

Nuh-uh. Cheating gets you nowhere, no matter what you fink. Be true, don't be a fake person. BLAH!

Jovonnah

I guess we all wish we could be better aye

Like me I always regret things... i cudda done this or done that.

Sux feeling depressed all the time hah... feels like u cant talk to ne1... esp those closest  to us... Those closer to us are more judgement I guess... Like if i tell my bf im sad all the time (not coza him) he will be like "shut up ur making me feel like crap"... My cuzin says "u just tryna find something wrong with u"

Aww why do u feel like ur husbands on a search for someone 'better'? He must love u darely if he married u :)

dear

i dont know wht to say to u

i dont think tht u should go on this life with him and weast all tht time yes ur 24 and am 24 y too u have a lot of time infront of u

but if u love him so hard tht u cant live with out him u have to make him love u

and how tht through  showing him how is love could be

all the time i watch unfaithful movie and wonder how could she do tht

but i knew finaly tht a woman all tht she want from her husbend is passion and love

i could love my husbind so much tht i will make him cry if he just think i will leave him

so its up to u darlin to show him how is life withut u is dark and nothing else matter in this world but u and ur basbies

gd luck and tel wht will happen to u

[sroo2a]

Tell him how badly he has hurt you, tell him exactly how you feel and then go by his reaction as to what the next step will be. I agree with you it is a form of cheating and I know it must really hurt you. Stay strong and I hope things work out.

xx Melody

Gosh just take him to court!!
And ask for your rights!!

He doesn't deserve you, he is cheating you and you saw it all with your own eyes and yet he lies to you in your face, what kind of a person is that?

You can't just forgive him for such a thing and live with him, i mean he cheated once (that you know of) but why not again?? since you can't always catch him...

Just don't be with someone that doesn't appreciate you. i understand it's hard for you but i believe that you can do it, start a new life with your baby and be happy, instead of living in fear with someone who doesn't even respect you and dares to slam you and grab towards the door!!

Girl you deserve better, and you know it.. don't let some ass ruin your life, you don't need him... and you are the only person who can make yourself happy... you know you can do it, just be strong...

I wish you all the best,
Dee.

you need to get out...as hard as it is..you need to do this for your safety and the safety of your child.  i know this from experience, its not easy and its scary as hell, but in the long run it will be worth it.

you also dont need a liar and a cheat in your life ..dont waste your time and love on someone who doesnt deserve it..again its easier said than done!!!  just keep in mind that you are a strong woman with a child to raise and teach him how to treat a woman properly

I think you've done all you can do at this point. You confronted him with direct evidence and he still denied it. He's probably lying about other things as well and wasn't planning on being a faithful husband.

Feeling anxious and unsure about this is a natural reaction. You've obviously spent part of your life with this man and it was something special for you for a period of time. But its also obvious his priorities don't seem to be with you and if he's been violent in the past.. then its time to move on. Not only for your sanity but what's right for your daughter.

Don't think so much about him having 'the time of his life' and try to focus on what's right for you and your daughter right now. As the popular saying goes, "If momma ain't happy... ain't nobody happy." :p

While I think leaving might be inevitable, do you have a friend or family member you could go stay with for a while? If not.. even a hotel or something for a couple weeks. Let him really think about this and explain exactly where you stand on leaving him, his cheating, and dishonesty. Maybe he'll realize how much he screwed up but it sounds like probably not. At least its worth a try and nobody can say that you didn't give it your best and then leaving is your only sane option.

I can relate to some of what your feeling.. I am divorced and you have a difficult road ahead of you no matter what you choose. I know most of what you are feeling is anger right now and that's another good reason to get away for awhile. If.. after a couple weeks.. he isn't begging for forgiveness and your thinking with a clearer head that there's no other way.. then what has to be done, has to be done.

Just my advice since you were asking. Remember the most important element in your decision should be your daughter over anything else..

I missed my family too, especially my grandmother and my cousins. I moved 1800 miles away cuz I hated my life, and I spent the next 10 years regretting it. Now, I still miss my family, but I am finally content with where I live now.

I don't really know how I feel about kids. I'm thinking of having another one. I think that it would be nice to have a little toddler running about. I hope that you enjoy your child. They grow up so fast.

I know what you mean. I'm a marine wife and I ask my mom for her opinion on moving and she just tells me it's up to me and my husband.

Before she would have put her two cents in for everything now it, "well talk to your husband"

It's hard being away from family, and friends, not knowing whats going on at home. But I guess thats what comes from marrying into the military.

As for the wifes around the base. There all weird. LOL Try the website www.cafemom.com its a good site to met women around you who know what your going through. ttyl